October 21, 2024, 10:01 am | Read time: 5 minutes

The dating jungle can be a very hostile environment and often brings with it a lot of stress, sadness, and tears. But before you give up in resignation and think to yourself, “I’ll just stay alone then” – bodywork could help you. In our STYLEBOOK interview, the expert explains how it works and what it’s all about.

What is bodywork, and what are its benefits?

Cinderella Baksa-Soós is an expert in transformative bodywork or somatic coaching at “Free The Qi” in Berlin. But what exactly does it entail? “Basically, it’s body awareness training. I work with women, but also men, and practice increasing their own body awareness when they are in a state that disturbs them or prevents them from being happy.” This heightened awareness can lead to a deeper self-understanding, clarifying your desires and aversions and shedding light on why you might repeatedly choose similar partners.

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Bodywork sessions can address not just present-day issues but also traumas that affect us, whether we’re aware of them or not. “I have some clients who have been traumatized, especially by sexualized violence, and who struggle with various fears and even panic states.” Other physical disorders and irritations, such as lack of sleep or appetite, can also be addressed in bodywork sessions.

Bodywork can release mental and physical blockages

These traumas are often not even clear to those affected. “If we are in a stressful situation and it doesn’t stop or we have left the stress behind us but still have it in our bodies, bodywork can help.” Baksa-Soós explains how this works using an example from the animal world: “Animals being hunted, in a sense, go through a near-death experience. Once they have outrun their pursuer, they shake off the stress”. And the coach means that literally. “Animals like zebras or antelopes shake off the stress after such an experience. This is a natural reaction of the body that serves to deal with the energy stored in the body. With us humans, this often no longer happens. The energy can no longer flow freely and can then lead to anxiety if such situations are repeated again and again – even if this only happens in our subconscious.”

How bodywork helps with dating

Baksa-Soós also works with her clients. Through breathing exercises, targeted questions from the expert, and gentle touch, blockages that can get in the way of dating, among other things, can be released. The bodywork coach works with numerous clients who feel frustrated with dating. They have noticed that they keep meeting similar guys and that this makes them unhappy. We then work on how these women can change their attitude in order to attract more suitable partners in the long term.”

Bodywork can also empower single women to liberate themselves from what Baksa-Soós refers to as the ‘single stigma.’ “We work on the inner attitude that women can also rise above it and be happier being single. That they are not dependent on a partnership to feel complete.”

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